Let’s Talk About Shame in Dog Training

If you’ve ever searched for dog training help online, chances are you’ve felt it: the shame.

You post a question in a group. You watch a reel. You read the comments. Suddenly it feels like everyone is doing it “right,” and you’re doing it wrong. You’re told what you should have done. You’re warned that you’ve already ruined your dog. You’re made to feel embarrassed for needing help at all.

That culture is everywhere in dog training spaces, especially on social media, and it’s harmful.

It’s Good to Ask for Help

Needing help with your dog is not a failure. It’s a sign that you care.

Dogs don’t come with manuals. Every dog is different. Every household is different. And life is messy. Asking for support is how you learn, grow, and make things better for both you and your dog.

Unfortunately, many people are met with judgment instead of guidance. That can make reaching out feel overwhelming, intimidating, and emotionally exhausting.

When Everyone Is “Right,” It’s Hard to Know What to Do

One of the hardest parts of modern dog training is that everyone online seems convinced they have the right answer, and that you’re wrong.

Balanced. Positive. Dominance. Pack leader. No treats. All treats. Crate. No crate. Board and train. Never board and train.

It’s a lot.

When every voice is loud and confident, it can leave you feeling confused, discouraged, and afraid to make the “wrong” choice. This prevents so many people from even starting.

You’re Allowed to Unfollow Shame

Even if someone shares good tips, if their content makes you feel anxious, judged, or bad about yourself, it’s okay to unfollow.

Your nervous system matters. Your motivation matters. Your relationship with training matters.

If scrolling makes you feel like a bad dog parent, you’re less likely to want to train at all. Curating a social media feed that feels supportive, realistic, and kind is not weak, it’s healthy.

A Positive Relationship With Training Matters

Dog training shouldn’t feel like punishment for you.

If training feels heavy, stressful, or full of guilt, it becomes something you avoid. But when training feels supportive and achievable, it becomes something you can actually stick with.

You and your dog both deserve a training experience built on trust, clarity, and compassion, not fear of being judged.

Many of Us Get Dogs During Turbulent Times

As a dog trainer, I am fully aware that many people don’t get dogs at their “best.”

We get dogs during:

• Life-changing health diagnoses

• Divorce and breakups

• Mental health recovery

• After trauma

We get dogs when we’re trying to survive, heal, or hold things together. Dogs bring comfort, connection, and grounding during some of the hardest chapters of our lives.

Life happens. Routines fall apart. Training slips. And then one day, you realize you need help.

That is normal. That is human.

My Own Story

Full disclosure: I got my own reactive dog after being robbed.

At first, I felt comforted when he would bark at strangers approaching the home. It made me feel safer. But then he also barked at my friends and family… and the vet… and the groomer.

That’s when I realized I needed extra help.

My Training Is a Shame-Free Zone

My business is built on one core belief: shame does not help dogs learn, and it does not help humans show up as their best selves.

There is no guilt here. No pressure. No judgment.

I use kind, science-backed, positive reinforcement methods that actually work in real life. I support both you and your dog with practical, compassionate guidance so progress feels achievable and sustainable.

You don’t need to be perfect to get started. You just need support.

If you’re ready for dog training that meets you where you are, I would truly love to help.